How to deal with Disappointment

Recently I read an article on that topic on The Newpaper last thursday..It was interesting as I was really disappointed that day...and happen to read that..

I never know the write could so aptly describe the feelings of disappointment.

Here's some parts of it..

"Disappointment occurs when your expectations are not met - at the root of every letdown you face is the failure to fulfill a certain internal standard.

Many times, our reactions to disappointment - engaging in distractions, sulking and calling up happier memories - reinforce rather than change our expectations.

We hold on to them, believing our expectations were right to begin with and that the other person had simply failed to meet our standards.

But sticking to unrealistic standards and expectations is a sure setup for future disappointments."


How true.

Many times I hold on to my expectations, even though the person might have disappointment me many times. Cos its through the disappointments that I faced that made me believe in myself more.

From disappointments, you will be able to adjust your expectations so that it will be minimised the next time.
Even if it did disappoint you again, it would not have mattered already..as you've already shifted your focus to something else. It definitely doesn't mean lowering your standards, but its merely to focus on other aspects rather than solely one which could potentially set you up for more disappointments if you hold on to it.

Because of the disappointments faced in the past, I strive to be the one who doesn't disappoints.

The feeling of disappointment is demoralising.

At times, it could be hard to handle.

I'd always think of happy things whenever I'm disappointed.
I like to be alone to think of the feelings that I'm going through on what disappoints me the most at the moment, in that way..I can avoid it the next time.

Its probably one of the most prevalent feeling that I've experienced. It comes in all forms and shapes. All places and times.

Its difficult to run away from it.

Maybe its because I dislike that feeling, I tell myself not to become one.

Thus the high expectations occur..I expect a certain standard and many times when its not met, I wonder if I'm wrong to have that belief in the first place.

Think its time to shift focus..I hope I can.


温岚 - 《祝我生日快乐》

我知道伤心不能改变什么　那么　让我诚实一点
诚实　难免有不能控制的宣泄
只要关上了门　不必理谁

一个人坐在空荡包厢里面　手机　让它休息一夜
难　像切歌切掉回忆的画面　眼泪不能流过十二点

生日快乐　我对自己说　蜡烛点了　寂寞亮了
生日快乐　泪也融了　我要谢谢你给的你拿走的一切

还爱你　带一点恨　还要时间　才能平衡
热恋伤痕　幻灭重生　祝我生日快乐